Seedbed Part 1

The First Post

As many of you know I have been going through a very difficult period. 2011 was thus far the most painful year of my life. I have tried my best to learn from my experiences. Let’s see if I can summarize the most important lessons in one pithy status update.

Forgiveness is a temporal phenomenon. By that I mean forgiveness is about being in the here and now. If I allow my mind to dwell in the past, thinking of betrayal or the emotional abuse I have suffered, I invite hatred into my heart. If I think too hard about the good memories I invite madness. Likewise, if I allow my mind to wander into the future, to contemplate the plans we had for our future, I succumb to overwhelming grief. Yet, if I stay right here in the present moment, the only place I’ll ever be, I can begin to let go. I start to understand that I can’t control other people. All I can do is try my best to focus on myself and to create a healthy and nurturing environment.

Here’s what I want to tell all of you, my family and friends, old and new, far and near. Thank you. I have been humbled by the love and support I have received. And if you find yourself in conflict with someone dear to you, cast your gaze inward before doing anything else. Learn your limitations and embrace your insecurities. Realize that you are worthy of love simply by the fact that you exist. Once you realize this, then cast your gaze outward. You will catch a glimpse of yourself in the other person and you will know empathy. Suddenly you will know how to forgive them. And how to forgive yourself.

Alienation is a bad dream. Nothing more. Under the skin we are all in common. I truly love each and every one of you. I wish you all peace and serenity in the year ahead.

Originally posted to Facebook December 31, 2011